You would think with all of the news we’ve heard about sex addiction in the past few years, there’d be no doubt that it’s a real addiction. But a new study shockingly says sex addiction is no addiction at all. The study says that people who have so-called “sex addictions” are really just people who like to have a lot of sex.
Investigators found that brain response to sexual images was associated with the participants' level of sexual desire and "not in any way" to the severity of their hypersexuality.
"In other words, hypersexuality does not appear to explain brain responses to sexual images any more than just having a high libido," senior author Nicole Prause, PhD, assistant research scientist in the Department of Psychiatry at the Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior at the University of California, Los Angeles.
This reminds me of the conversation I had with Ruth (not her real name) on this subject last week. Ruth is a salon owner in Ikeja. I had gone for my weekly makeover at her salon. I have been patronizing for over a year now. Ruth is in her early thirties and her salon business is doing extremely well. The salon sits not less than 15 women at once, all receiving special treats every weekend.
On this particular day, Ruth was the one to handle my hair and naturally a lot of conversations would kick in during the time it would take her to fix my hair. “How is the family?” She asked; we are fine, I answered. "How is your husband and your last child?"
She is used to seeing my husband dropping me off at the salon. My 'oga' traveled for some time now, I answered. He’s been away for two months I added. She was shocked to hear that my husband has been away for about two months. Through the mirror, I could see the worry on her face. She asked me how I have been coping without the ‘warmth’ of my husband for that long period of time.
It was at this junction she opened up to me how she can’t do without sex. Ruth is not married yet. Ruth said she literally cannot take her mind off sex. "I’m addicted to sex" she whispered into my ears. “I do not have a permanent guy; I don’t have need for one.” She said she makes herself prey to any guy that meets her taste. “I know where to get them and I hardly sleep with a guy more than two times. I keep a guy that I fancy till the following day and that will be it.”
An attempt to counsel her was immediately rejected. “Don’t worry yourself; I have gone through countless counseling classes. They once told me that I am possessed, as a result I was subjected to deliverance in church. Nothing has changed from that time till now except the fact that my urge for sex seems to have increased with age.”
She recalled that it all started in her university days. “I had a steady boyfriend at that time. We indulged into a lot sexual activity. We had loads of sex. Once we returned from classes, we would have sex until we were fagged out and then I would pick my bag and return to my hostel.
He traveled after graduation and that was the end of our relationship. My quest to find a suitable replacement for him led to this.”
Going back to the study I sited earlier on, it stated that some people need more sex just the way some people need more water or sleep and this doesn’t make him or her “addict”.
Stumbling on this report, I am almost convinced that Ruth's condition is simply a case of high libido and not addiction to sex.
Before I forget, Ruth knew I would be writing this. She wants to know if she is alone in this?
What is your take on this? Please have your say in the comment box.
By Lola
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